That ended up being a crutch. His parents meant well—they were just trying to encourage him into a field where he would encounter fewer homophobes—but he was already anxious: If he gave up on finance, was that surrendering to stigma? Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle.
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But it was really horrifying. They show more aggressive posturing, they start taking financial risks, they want to punch things. Story - Michael Hobbes.
But what can be done for those of us who have already internalized it? He would come home exhausted, smoke a little weed, pour a glass of red wine, then start scanning the hookup apps for someone to invite over. Photo by Jamie Lee Curtis Taete. It's like what Woody Allen once said about bisexuality: "It immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.
James remembers the exact moment he decided to go into the closet. Facebook Twitter Pinterest. He came and most gay guys seem to fall in either at 16, then graduated, then moved to San Francisco and started working in HIV prevention.
As kids, growing up in the closet makes us more likely to concentrate our self-worth into whatever the outside world wants us to be—good at sports, good at school, whatever. But for us, the effect is the opposite. As adults, the social norms in our own community pressure us to concentrate our self-worth even further—into our looks, our masculinity, our sexual performance.
James grew up in Queens, a beloved member of a big, affectionate, liberal family. He sat Halkitis and his husband down on the couch and announced he was gay.