Did the fact that he was so visibly distraught mean that he was in love, too? It was scary, discovered he was gay shortly after we started dating it was sad. I was 30 years old when this happened, and Chris and I had been married for 11 years.
Their lives were eerily parallel: They were bisexual and married to heterosexual women, had kids and wanted to remain married but be able to explore their sexuality. I feel we have a responsibility to our children as well.
I feel grateful for the 21 years that Mike and I had together but especially those last two years. This was not good. That's why I've never had any interest in men, never had a type — because I didn't fancy any of them.
I was determined to make our relationship work. For so many years, I'd just gone along with what everyone else wanted. While he could pass for 28, his maturity is evident to me.
Maria : Ashamed and Confused, you don't have to throw the baby out with the bathwater. I think we both knew something wasn't right. I wasn't always gay, but I now want to be with men. I feared that the shift I had worried about from the beginning was happening. Chris's father was a Southern Baptist minister who preached fire and brimstone, and Chris was taught that being gay was the ultimate sin — an absolute sentence to hell.